Me (31M) and my husband (27M) recently decided that we wanted to get married. It has been delayed multiple times due to COVID and my family is completely unsupportive and cut off (his family isn’t super happy about the queer stuff, but they’re at least civil) so we wanted to have the wedding and reception that WE wanted to have.
B, my husband, is HELLA into emo music and has been ever since he was young. Paramore, A Day to Remember, etc. This dude lives and breathes the stuff. So we had a distinctively emo/90s/00s goth aesthetic for the wedding. He wore a suit that was all black with red accents. I wore the jacket from MCR’s black parade. It was great.
We decided we wanted to have an open bar at the wedding. We wanted to have a lot of queer friends come and feel free to express themselves however they saw fit. For this reason, we didn’t want kids at the wedding, but understood that it’s a tall ask depending on the family situations, so on our save the dates we put “children are allowed, but MUST be dressed EMO AF (not a joke)!”
We figured, the kids would look badass and if they got upset or threw a tantrum during the wedding/reception, at least they would fit the emo aesthetic.
Day of the wedding, B’s aunt arrives with her kids dressed in bright Easter pastel suits. The relationship they have is already tenuous and when confronted about the dress code, B’s aunt said, ” already had to come to this gay wedding; I wasn’t going to make my kids wear devil clothes too!” which, for obvious reasons, did not go down well.
We refused to let her in and had security escort her out of the venue as she threw a tantrum the whole way to her vehicle. Now, we’re getting calls and texts from other members of B’s family saying that we were awful and rude for how we treated her and her kids. That they should’ve been let in anyways, etc. It wasn’t a destination wedding for anyone, but they still mention time spent driving, getting ready, etc.
Both B & I held firm that this was going to be experience we wanted and the rest of the wedding went off without a hitch.
AITA?
\*EDIT\*: To be clear, the dress code for the wedding was emo/90s/00s goth as well. Wasn’t just for the kids.
\*EDIT2\*: In regards to the availability of pastel clothing, anyone near the Bible Belt can tell you that Easter Sunday is a SEA of pastel clothing for all ages.