I caught my daughter and her boyfriend having sex and I think I did a good job at my reaction

So.. School was canceled today because of the weather. My daughter is 17 and she’s a senior. Her boyfriend is like 17 or 18 I’m pretty sure and he’s also a senior. My daughter has anxiety and when she was 13, we built a treehouse for her. Only she goes in it. It’s her space to cool down or be alone, especially since we have 4 younger kids and at her age she wants privacy. Two hours ago I was looking for my daughter because she wasn’t in the house. Usually she texts me if she’s in the treehouse but I didn’t get a text so I was worried. So I went out to our backyard and started approaching the tree house. I get halfway up the stairs and see her and her boyfriend going at it. I walked back down but yelled up to them. It got awkwardly silent and then I heard a lot of movement- i assume they were putting their clothes back on. They came out and the three of us stood there awkwardly. I told her boyfriend I liked his hair. He said thanks. I nodded. He nodded. We looked away awkwardly. I asked them if they were using a condom. They said yes. I said “Good, now go home or come inside, how are y’all even ignoring this weather?” After that we went inside. I kept my distance from them because I am temporarily traumatized. (But to be fair, my wife and I caused our daughter to feel the same way a couple months ago when she walked in on us. So I guess it’s equal now).

Later that night, I said this to my daughter:

“Alright so you’re sexually active. You’re 17, using condoms, so I’m not sure what if anything I need to explain to you about sex and I’m kinda like not about sitting you down and doing sex ed from scratch and making you feel awkward as I explain things you already know for an hour, so I’m going to invite you to ask me any questions you can think up and are willing to ask and I will do my best to answer. You’re making adult decisions, so you can consider me an adult resource. You have to choose to come for help, but if you do, I will help however I can.

You do however need to start seeing a gynecologist, we should talk to your mom about that, once sexually active you need to have a checkup at least once a year. You can talk to them about birth control options if you would like to have an additional layer of protection besides just condoms. If you want birth control, I’ll pay for whatever it is. If you ever feel you need the morning after pill *and you can’t afford it yourself because it is your responsibility first to pay for such things* come to me and I’ll buy you one. Need an STD test at a clinic? Such things are routine,, I am not going to assume you have something, and you should probably get an STD panel once a year no matter what. Ask if you need it, I won’t ask questions, I’ll just drop you off and pick you up to get it done and shell out the money for it.”

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  1. So.. School was canceled today because of the weather. My daughter is 17 and she’s a senior. Her boyfriend is like 17 or 18 I’m pretty sure and he’s also a senior. My daughter has anxiety and when she was 13, we built a treehouse for her. Only she goes in it. It’s her space to cool down or be alone, especially since we have 4 younger kids and at her age she wants privacy. Two hours ago I was looking for my daughter because she wasn’t in the house. Usually she texts me if she’s in the treehouse but I didn’t get a text so I was worried. So I went out to our backyard and started approaching the tree house. I get halfway up the stairs and see her and her boyfriend going at it. I walked back down but yelled up to them. It got awkwardly silent and then I heard a lot of movement- i assume they were putting their clothes back on. They came out and the three of us stood there awkwardly. I told her boyfriend I liked his hair. He said thanks. I nodded. He nodded. We looked away awkwardly. I asked them if they were using a condom. They said yes. I said “Good, now go home or come inside, how are y’all even ignoring this weather?” After that we went inside. I kept my distance from them because I am temporarily traumatized. (But to be fair, my wife and I caused our daughter to feel the same way a couple months ago when she walked in on us. So I guess it’s equal now).

    Later that night, I said this to my daughter:

    “Alright so you’re sexually active. You’re 17, using condoms, so I’m not sure what if anything I need to explain to you about sex and I’m kinda like not about sitting you down and doing sex ed from scratch and making you feel awkward as I explain things you already know for an hour, so I’m going to invite you to ask me any questions you can think up and are willing to ask and I will do my best to answer. You’re making adult decisions, so you can consider me an adult resource. You have to choose to come for help, but if you do, I will help however I can.

    You do however need to start seeing a gynecologist, we should talk to your mom about that, once sexually active you need to have a checkup at least once a year. You can talk to them about birth control options if you would like to have an additional layer of protection besides just condoms. If you want birth control, I’ll pay for whatever it is. If you ever feel you need the morning after pill *and you can’t afford it yourself because it is your responsibility first to pay for such things* come to me and I’ll buy you one. Need an STD test at a clinic? Such things are routine,, I am not going to assume you have something, and you should probably get an STD panel once a year no matter what. Ask if you need it, I won’t ask questions, I’ll just drop you off and pick you up to get it done and shell out the money for it.”

  2. So. School was canceled today because of the weather. My daughter is 17 and she’s a senior. Her boyfriend is like 17 or 18 I’m pretty sure and he’s also a senior. My daughter has anxiety and when she was 13, we built a treehouse for her. Only she goes in it. It’s her space to cool down or be alone, especially since we have 4 younger kids and at her age she wants privacy. Two hours ago I was looking for my daughter because she wasn’t in the house. Usually she texts me if she’s in the treehouse but I didn’t get a text so I was worried. So I went out to our backyard and started approaching the tree house. I get halfway up the stairs and see her and her boyfriend going at it. I walked back down but yelled up to them. It got awkwardly silent and then I heard a lot of movement- i assume they were putting their clothes back on. They came out and the three of us stood there awkwardly. I told her boyfriend I liked his hair. He said thanks. I nodded. He nodded. We looked away awkwardly. I asked them if they were using a condom. They said yes. I said “Good, now go home or come inside, how are y’all even ignoring this weather?” After that we went inside. I kept my distance from them because I am temporarily traumatized. (But to be fair, my wife and I caused our daughter to feel the same way a couple months ago when she walked in on us. So I guess it’s equal now).

    Later that night, I said this to my daughter:

    “Alright so you’re sexually active. You’re 17, using condoms, so I’m not sure what if anything I need to explain to you about sex and I’m kinda like not about sitting you down and doing sex ed from scratch and making you feel awkward as I explain things you already know for an hour, so I’m going to invite you to ask me any questions you can think up and are willing to ask and I will do my best to answer. You’re making adult decisions, so you can consider me an adult resource. You have to choose to come for help, but if you do, I will help however I can.

    You do however need to start seeing a gynecologist, we should talk to your mom about that, once sexually active you need to have a checkup at least once a year. You can talk to them about birth control options if you would like to have an additional layer of protection besides just condoms. If you want birth control, I’ll pay for whatever it is. If you ever feel you need the morning after pill *and you can’t afford it yourself because it is your responsibility first to pay for such things* come to me and I’ll buy you one. Need an STD test at a clinic? Such things are routine, I am not going to assume you have something, and you should probably get an STD panel once a year no matter what. Ask if you need it, I won’t ask questions, I’ll just drop you off and pick you up to get it done and shell out the money for it.”

  3. So the school was cancelled due to the season today. My daughter is 17 and she is a senior. His lover is like 17 or 18, I am very sure and he is also a senior. My daughter is concerned and when she was 13 years old, we made a tree house for her. Only he goes into it. This is the place that is quiet alone, especially since we have 4 little children and at his age he wants privacy. Two hours ago I was looking for my daughter because she was not at home. Usually he tells me that he is in the tree house but I did not find a text, so I was worried. So I went to my backyard and started contacting the tree house. I grab the stairs in halfway and see him and his lovers are going on him. I went back but shouted them. It became silent and then I heard a lot of movement – I think they were taking back their clothes. They came out and three of us stood there. I told my lover that I like my hair. He said thank you. I said. He said. We looked strangely. I asked if they were using condoms. He said yes. I said, “Good, now go home or come inside, how can I ignore this season too? After that we went into. I kept my distance from them as I am temporarily traumatic. (But to be fair, my wife and I forced my daughter to feel a few months ago in the same way when she went with us. So I think it is now equal.

    After that night I told my daughter:

    “Now you are sexually active. You’re using a 17, condom, so I’m not sure if I need to explain to you about anything sex and I’m kind as you sit down and sex ED from scratch and make you feel strange because I explain the things you already know for an hour, so I’m going to invite you what you can think and want to ask and I’ll do my best to answer. If you are making adult decisions, you can consider me an adult resource. You have to choose for help, but if you do, I can help.

    However, you need to look at a gynecologist, we should talk to your mother about it, once sexually active you have to checkup at least once a year. You can talk to them about birth control options if you only want the extra layer of protection in addition to condoms. If you want birth control, I will pay for the thing that he is. If you ever feel that you need morning after the pill* And you can’t afford it yourself because it’s your responsibility to first pay for such things* Come to me and I’ll buy you one. Need a stump test in a clinic? Such things are regular, I’m going to assume you nothing, and you should probably get a stature panel once a year. Ask if you need it, I will not ask the question, I will just leave you and raise you to get it and withdraw money for it.

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