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How would respond if you started seeing someone new who you were really interested in and they asked you to get tested for STI’s/STD’s before engaging in sex or making the relationship official?
How would respond if you started seeing someone new who you were really interested in and they asked you to get tested for STI’s/STD’s before engaging in sex or making the relationship official?
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I’d be confident that they are a responsible person.
I’d say “absolutely fine if you do one too”. I don’t see any problem is asking a potential sexual partner of an STD test as long as you’re willing to do the test too
Responsible choice, I’ll let you know the results.
do it and ask them to do it as well
this would be ok with me.
i would take it as a sign that the relationship is developing…trust is being established, important things can be talked about. i think it indicates a good level of responsibility and maturity in a partner.
Being responsible and safe. Wouldn’t bother me
I’d get the test. *I* know I’m clean, but they can’t know for sure if it’s true just because I say I am. It’s a totally reasonable request.
It would also tell me that she’s probably been burned in the past.
This shouldn’t be offensive. Always be safe out there!
“Cool, want to make a date of both of us getting tested?”
As long as I’m not the only one getting tested, I’m completely all for it.
I would be the one asking for such test so if I met someone who do the same I won’t be surprised at all
I’d feel safe in knowing they care about themselves and myself.
If I’d ask someone that and they said “no” I’d walk away, I don’t have time to play games or be with someone who doesn’t respect boundaries.
I’d be happy to have a test I can pass, for once.
I’d be happy they were a responsible and cautious person and probably like them even more
They’re a responsible person, I would applaud them.
Let them know I was just going to say that.
do it and ask them to do the same.
I would think it’s great. Better safe than sorry
I’d be fine with it, go and get the tests done, make sure they do too.
Seems very responsible and also reasonable.
I’d go with them and get tested together.
I gave my now-husband my (clean bill of health) STI results as a little gift when we had just started dating.
He loved it, and then did the same for me.
Your friends are immature and anyone who is truly interested in you, as a person, would appreciate and respect that you take good care of yourself.
Mature adults aren’t fazed by this at all, rather the opposite. It’s an indication of self-care, like finding out that someone keeps a beautiful garden they don’t want infested with pests… one feels privileged to enter such a pristine place with a peace of mind.
Fine by me. It’s just gonna what I knew all along but now you can be sure too. And if something *does* come back that’s gonna be one hell of a surprise, but at least then I know I guess.
Honestly, if anyone would make a problem out of an STI test I’d reconsider if they’re relationship material at all.
I’d be totally fine with it. Can’t fault them for not wanting to catch something. Plus, if I had something without knowing it, I’d definitely wanna know.
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First date to the clinic. That would be an awesome story for your future kids.
I ask this of every new partner and I make sure I do it too. I also get regularly tested during relationships. You never know
‘Okily dokily. Would a blow job-a-reno be out if the question until those pesky little results come back?’
That’s called responsibility
I’d be pretty happy since I’d want them tested too.
green flag tbh
Practical
I would think they were classy, and smart.
Many people do. Where have you been?
Sounds pretty responsible.
If I were into someone I would definitely agree to both testing ourselves to make sure there isn’t anything dormant.
As long as it’s mutual, then it’s absolutely good and healthy. I’m completely open about my own scare with HIV (Straight and cis, but I engaged in a threesome and we all got tested when the other male had a HIV scare, and I undertook a course of daily PrEP.) and heavily encourage testing. Openness and sexual health is not a bad thing.
My ex asked me to do it since she was on birth control before we started engaging in sex. I obviously obliged since it was good for both of us, nothing from from mi POV
I wouldn’t argue with it. That kind of responsibility is way underrated.
Seems responsible to me.
I’d be surprised thst they asked before I could and suggest doing the tests together