Brother is dying from complications due to cancer. How do you cope with losing a sibling?

Brother is dying from complications due to cancer. How do you cope with losing a sibling?

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  1. You don’t. You just let it hit you and walk forward as soon as you can find your legs. You will. And though the pain is never any lesser, it does become proportionally smaller. You build a new normal ontop of the wreckage of the old, and someday that new life is bigger than the hurt. That’s when you’ll be able to honor your brother and carry the best parts of him forward in his stead.

  2. I have four big brothers. I can’t even imagine the loss of one of them. It’s my biggest fear I guess but I think we would stay together to support each other.

  3. I haven’t ever experienced this I just wanted to say how sorry I am you have to go thru this and I wish you and your family nothing but love and healing

  4. Expecting a lot of downvotes here; but….

    The suffering is only temporary. Soon he will be in Heaven where there is no pain, only joy, pleasure, and happiness.

    And you will join him there too someday; he will be waiting for you and he can’t wait to show you around.

    It’s not the end; it’s only the beginning.

  5. As already mentioned here, remembering the good times is really helpful. I also personally find that talking to someone who is close to you can help ease the pain.

  6. I lost my sister. Be there for them now and do whatever you want with your sibling. These memories will help you deal with the loss and make you happy you did what you did. After she passed, I had to see someone because it was so hard on me so don’t rule out seeing someone who can help you mentally organize what happened and to not think you need to think about them all of the time otherwise you’re not a good sibling. After they pass, you feel you have to think about them all of the time otherwise their memory will be lost. That’s just not the case.

  7. I lost my sister 30 years ago. I’m still overwhelmed by missing her and guilt about the brother I could’ve been some days. You never get over it, but you do eventually learn to live with it.

  8. Almost 6 yrs for me and the hurt is still there. Memories keep me sane. I lost him suddenly, didn’t have time to tell him so many things. No time to thank him for all those wonderful years. Take the time to do this. Let him know how you feel and how much you love him. Continue to make memories while you can. Do what you can while he’s still here! Spend time with him, that’s the one thing we never have enough of.

  9. I have an undertaker in the family. He always emphasizes that it’s important for people to share positive memories. People like knowing that their loved ones mattered to others.

    At funerals, there’s sometimes a reluctance to talk about the deceased because people are afraid of rubbing salt in the wound, so to speak.

    If your friends and family are quiet like that, it’s not because they don’t have anything to say. They probably care a lot. They may only need some encouragement.

  10. I lost my one and only brother a month ago to cancer and all I can say is that if you care about your brother it will be the hardest pain you will have probably felt until now.

    There really is no advice but to stay by him as long as he is alive and ensure he enjoys his final days.

    Feel free to PM if u want to talk.

  11. Kid sister died slowly from cancer, over 5 years. She never exhibited self pity, and had as much fun with her kids as she could. I honor her memory by continuing to be in my nieces life and remembering the good stories and sharing them

  12. I’ve thought about this but with my sister. She does weed and vaping and who knows what else. She gets involved with the wrong people and has random outburst of anger.
    I always imagined I’d end up walking into her room and see her just lying there from overdose or hanging there… dead.
    She’s somewhat of a terrible person but I don’t know how’d I react… I don’t think I’d be sad, but at the same time I don’t think I’d feel any emotions in general.

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