Do you think once a cheater, always a cheaters? If so, why or why not?

Do you think once a cheater, always a cheaters? If so, why or why not?

What do you think?

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  1. If you let someone do something bad with little to no consequence, there is a very good chance they will do it again.

    There is a chance they never do it again, but I wouldn’t be able to trust that would be the case.

  2. So here’s the thing. I think people can make mistakes. People can be dumb, but they can also learn and evolve. However if you’re in a relationship with that person who cheated. It may be near impossible to rebuild the trust. I mean, you’re going to have a hard time not constantly worrying about what they may do on a night out, and that will just crush the relationship. So no, not once a cheater, always a cheater, but I think it may be really difficult to continue being partners after.

  3. No… cheating can be situational and based on the dynamic you have with your partner, and also people DO learn from their mistakes.

    Of course some people will cheat, cheat, cheat, and it might be hard to tell them apart from the rest.

  4. No, personally coming from someone who has messed up, I learned big time and now I don’t even think about other people. It legit scarred me. And I’m the one who made the mistake 😵‍💫🥴🫠

  5. No I don’t think so. I cheated when I was a teenager, when I was inexperienced and coming from an abusive household with a serial cheating father. Despite that, I only cheated during my first relationship. It was an asshole move.

    I’m 31 now and have never cheated since, nor even considered it. I learned from my mistakes and teenage assholery.

  6. I think it’s circumstantial. In the current relationship, yeah, probably. But there are some people who are just in a relationship they shouldn’t be in for some reason or another and make that decision to cheat, not justifying it at all, just saying it’s circumstantial. Then there are those who cheat on a partner and that relationship ends, find someone new and are faithful to that person as long as they are together because it’s a better match. Then, there are serial cheaters who just can never have enough.

  7. Depends on the motivation to cheat and how guilty the person feels after cheating. If it was a frivolous reason or the person is not very sorry then I guess the person will cheat again and again.

  8. Yes, if they cheat on you once they will most likely do it again. However, I don’t believe that a person who cheats on someone will cheat with other partners.

  9. Yes I do. Someone who has cheated can, and usually will, find their way to reason themselves back into the situation again. Maybe people can change, but I’ve never met a cheater in my life who wouldn’t do it again.

  10. No, I was unfaithful to my ex partner years ago and I still feel guilty. It honestly haunts me that I could actually do that to someone who I was supposed to love and who loved me.
    She forgave me, she said she would of happily been with me for the rest of her life.
    I never forgave myself and I never will, it’s my biggest shame and it will always put a strain on my current relationship because she is aware I cheated in my last relationship. I’m not a Liar and I am completely open with her.
    I’ve grown alot as a person and I would never be unfaithful ever again.

  11. I’ve cheated on my now ex once, for like 3 days, I don’t understand how people that consistency do it don’t feel overwhelming guilt, and yes I did tell him, we lasted almost a year and a half, he cheated on me with one of my friends like 8 months later for other reasons, he never told me, he claimed I was “the only thing keeping him from committing” to my knowledge he’s very much alive and kicking, it’s been like almost 2 years.

  12. No cheating can be an expression of a lot of things emotionally. Sex addiction is real. That doesn’t mean you have to stay with a partner who cheated on you but it also doesn’t mean they will always and for ever cheat in every relationship.

  13. It’s like a lot of other bad things people do … most will swear off it, some will just keep doing it unless something really bad happens to them. But there’s no accountability in relationships, nobody’s going to come put you in jail or fine you or fire you for cheating, the only thing the victim can do is just stop seeing them. So serial cheaters just rationalize it away and go out and hurt someone else.

  14. No, people can change. With that being said, I don’t recommend anyone stay with a cheater, they may change, but not necessarily with/for you. I speak from experience

  15. I don’t think because someone has cheated once that they will definitely cheat again but I do think that most of them are capable of doing it again. But there will be people who learn and change their ways. That’s my experience at least with people in my life.

  16. Not necessarily. I think there is some predictive value in how the cheater handles the situation, though.

    I cheated on a boyfriend as a teenager. It was a shitty thing to do, I regretted it immediately, confessed the next day and broke up with my bf. And learned that if I’m unhappy in a relationship there are better ways of handling it (like breaking up with someone *before* I hook up with someone else). I made a really hurtful mistake, owned up to it, and did the work on my own issues that led to it so that I wouldn’t do something like that again.

    If I’d just carried on cheating until I was found out I doubt I’d still be friends with both of them (actually went to both of their weddings many years later).

    People CAN make mistakes and learn. But don’t trust that until you see actual evidence of them having made real changes in their life.

  17. I cheated on my ex with my now wife for the simple fact that I knew she was the one. My wife never lets me live it down. I feel it’s dependent on the person and trust that goes along with it

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