How do you personally deal with your own mortality?

How do you personally deal with your own mortality?

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  1. By accepting everyone else’s mortality too and recognising that I’m not special, it’s gonna happen to us all and there’s not a thing we can do about it. Just gotta accept it and enjoy the time we have.

    Make sure you live every day like you’re gonna die, tell the people you that you love that you love them regularly, spend time with the important people and live your life to its fullest. That way, when the inevitable happens, you know you’ve lived a good life and made the most of what you can.

  2. Salvador Dali once said (imagine your own Spanish accent) ‘Until death, it is all life!’. Try to enjoy the moment, or at least try not to worry too much, it won’t change anything.

  3. Personally I just compare myself to the vast scale of the universe. I am but a speck in the eyes of this world and but an atom in the eyes of the universe. I will not live forever nor will this planet and neither will our sun, let alone our solar system or galaxy.

    Despite this I’m alive, I’m here, I exist at this very moment at this very moment in history. For that I am forever grateful. While I may not live to be 100 maybe not even 60 energy cannot be created or destroyed therefore even after my death the atoms that makeup my very being will persist.

    Even after everything in the universe dies the energy that made up the lungs that helped me breathe, the eyes that helped me see, the ears that let me hear, the nose that let me smell, the mouth that let me taste, the hands and feet that let me feel, that energy will live on. I am made up of star stuff and my star stuff will still exist long after my final thought races through my mind.

    **I** am mortal but the matter that I consist of is **immortal.** Even if nobody remembers me after I’m gone I find comfort in knowing that the universe will.

  4. Contrary to many comments here, I think you SHOULD think about your death, though not to an obsessive degree, of course. It puts in perspective what is actually important in life. If you were planning a vacation, you’d want to think about when the vacation is going to be over to make sure you do all the fun things you intended to do on that vacation, and get the most out of it. You don’t want to be suddenly surprised by your vacation ending and realize you’d intended to hike up that mountain when all you ended up doing was sit and drink in a lawn chair the entire time. Our time here is finite, and we should live our lives with that in mind.

  5. You don’t think about it and try to make most out of your life. Otherwise, anxiety will consume you.

    Make the world a better place, or live by your standards and do what makes you grow as a person and feel fulfilled at the end of the day.

  6. The quote from The Good Place on the wave finding it’s way back home really helps.

    “Picture a wave in the ocean: you can see it measure it, its height, the way the sunlight refracts… and then it crashes on the shore and then it’s gone. But the water is still there. The wave was just a different way for the water to be for a little while. That’s one conception of death for a Buddhist. The wave returns to the ocean, where it came from, and where it’s supposed to be.”

  7. I’m a physician who absolutely loved his palliative care and hospice and geriatrics rotations, and considered becoming a palliative care doc. That clinical rotation is a crash course in confronting your own impermanence if there ever was one, so I feel qualified to weigh in on this.

    The hospice patients who were most afraid to die, I found, were those who had a lot of unfinished business. Obligations unmet. Beefs unsettled. “I love you” not said. Money owed. People who’ll be quite frankly struggling without them. Their life’s masterpiece only two thirds completed. A worthy successor to their professional role not found and trained. You get the idea. Along with this, and related to it, often comes a deep and abiding sense that they wasted much if not all of their lives.

    On the other hand, the hospice patients who were very much at peace with their near and certain death, tended to be those who wrapped up all the loose ends. They had a sense that they got all they could out of life, fulfilled their life’s mission or life’s work, passed along what they could to future generations. To them, life was like a video game that they’d beaten; there was nothing to be gained from continuing to maneuver sprites on the screen, so they were ready to turn off the game and move on to another one.

    With that in mind, I aim to have as little unresolved business in my life, long-term or short-term. I finish what I start. I don’t make commitments, promises, or deals lightly, and the ones I do make, I pour my heart into completely, and see through to the bitter end. I don’t have many people in my life, but the few I have, I am deeply loyal and loving towards. I try to “teach a person to fish” when I’m doctoring, not just “give a person a fish”, and cultivate empowerment.

    That way, when that day comes when the bell tolls for me, I’ll be able to say I lived a good life, accomplished what I came to accomplish, and have few regrets, and I’ll be able to spend my last moments in this life with some semblance of peace of mind and acceptance.

    “Live life as if one is already dead.” — Samurai saying
    “You know not the day nor the hour” — the Bible

    In other words, be ready to die at any moment. Live every moment as though it might be the last you ever experience in this life. And paradoxically, by cultivating this attitude, one will experience the present moment more saliently, and time will not seem to speed up as much as it tends to as we get older.

  8. Stoicism helps you understand that there are things that you can directly control, and there are things that will happen no matter what you do. It teaches you to control what you can, and to accept what you can’t.

    Imagine if you’re in a plane whose engines just caught fire and blew off. There ain’t nothing you can do to un-explode the engines, and the pilot is the only one who can try to glide the plane down safely. So you have a choice: lose your mind and start screaming and crying, or accept that this is happening and try to find some grace and comfort in your memories of life. Neither will save you, but one will at least see you out with dignity and a degree of peace.

  9. I used to be worried being a single dad to a toddler, so that if I died at any point they wouldn’t be trapped in the house. Now that he’s near 9, he should be fine to make a sandwich.

  10. The older I get, the less I care.

    I’m 58 now and realize I really never think about anything more than a few years in the past. I still remember my 20s and 30s and 40s, but I don’t regularly think about them.

    I’m also noticing that it’s less and less comfortable to be alive. Nothing major yet, but I can see where this is going.

    As far as events I’d like to see – there will always be one more thing I would like to be there for but will miss.

    And the older I get, the less relevant I am to everyone else. If I live to my 90s, I doubt that anyone will really notice except to remember me on holidays.

  11. I tried unsuccessfully to bring it forward and survived several incidents where I could have died (heart attack, asthma attacks, armed robberies and overdosing) and I have an ever present knowledge that it can all end at anytime and really not giving a crap about it anymore. Its going to happen eventually and if you spend your time worrying about it, you’re wasting your time.

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