Men, what struggles do you go through that women will never understand?

Men, what struggles do you go through that women will never understand?

What do you think?

35 Comments

Leave a Reply
  1. I am incredibly self-conscious about being careful with my words and actions so I can’t inadvertently be seen as a creep by women. I make sure to take other paths so I don’t follow behind somebody for too long because I don’t want them to feel worried. I make it a point to avoid scenarios where I’m going to be anywhere near teenage girls or kids especially if it’s going to be alone. Quick example of the teenage aspect was that I was at a sweet 16 party for a family friend and I made sure that my seat had its back facing the dance floor too not in any way shape or form seem like I was staring at teenage girls

    I was at Walmart over the weekend and three or four times I ended up in the same aisle as a young lady who was shopping by herself and after the last time, I told myself I wouldn’t let it happen again. Later on I turned down the household cleaner aisle and she was there so I did an Abe Simpson turned around and walked the other direction. Not interested in that lady at all, but I didn’t want her thinking I was following her or something like that.

    I guess that’s probably a pretty good example.

  2. I worked in child care for a while. Everyone assumed I was gay and when I mentioned I wasn’t I could feel them begin to assume I was a pedo. It made me so sad and I eventually just quit. Women don’t have to fear being called apeist and edophile just for existing and those are the two worst things in all of humanity so yeah that sucks

  3. Having to suppress my emotions to be masculine. I personally don’t do this but I do see online how men struggle with opening up to women because they don’t want to appear weak.

  4. Probably loneliness. The amount of women I’ve met who are truly, genuinely lonely is small compared to the amount of men I’ve met in my life who are borderline suicidal with loneliness.

    When I was a kid, I had no idea how terrible being a man under patriarchy was. I was like, what’s the big deal? I’ve always felt heard and validated, I never felt like my emotions weren’t valid. My dad always encouraged emotional expression. Then I became a man. And everything changed. Suddenly, people look at me like a threat when I’m walking at night. It doesn’t help that I’m 6’3. Suddenly, I can’t hang out with people younger than me without getting weird looks. Suddenly, people get uncomfortable when I express vulnerability. Suddenly, I feel like nobody in the world cares about me, not genuinely. Like my existence means nothing unless I’m rich and/or attractive and/or successful. Like I have to be exceptional to deserve care, love, and affection.

    But besides that, men are doing just fine. Isn’t the patriarchy just dandy?

  5. Being unable to connect or communicate with women because we’re worried we’ll be seen as creepy or off putting. I practice friendly smiling in front of the mirror every day but it just looks creepy.

  6. The experience of “walking on eggshells” when new women.

    If a guy makes a off color joke or is just awkward… he’ll get labeled as creepy or cringie. It’s not very often a woman walks up to a group of dudes & gets labeled as creepy.

  7. I am convinced that my balls have the hooky-side of the velcro and my leg has the fuzzy side of the velcro – because them bitches keep getting stuck together.

    I can’t even stick my hand down my pants in public to fix it, so I have to like… squat walk or try to lift one leg way higher than the other in an inconspicuous way.

    I look like John Cleese in the Ministry of Silly Walks or something.

    I need like… a remote control ball release system, or something.

  8. Just all the man shit we don’t get to do in this modern world. We are naturally hunters and defenders of the perimeter. We don’t get to do much of either.

  9. Value coming from what we can do, how much money we make and bring to the table, this isn’t exclusive to dating but in general. I do get no one wants to be around someone who’s lazy or a freeloader though.

    But when it does come to dating, it’s discouraging that it seems like everything has to do be perfect and in order to attract women.

  10. Being the one to make the first move. I’m an introvert so this is a struggle for me. But all I hear is “Man up” and shit but it ain’t that easy. My friends tell me I could definitely go for it with a solid chance because of who I am but that voice in the back of my head tells me I can’t and that’s all I hear.

  11. Wouldn’t call this misunderstood, but anxiety, loneliness and depression are huge, at least for me. I set dates and made plans to kill myself twice this summer. Thankful I have people I can at least reach out to.

    Also, drinking and struggling with the bottle. Been fighting this for years. Trying to turn myself into a social drinker instead of a daily drinker. I wouldn’t call myself an alcoholic, I’m just someone who wants peace and relief.

Leave a Reply