People who have/had abusive parents, when did you realize your parents are just shitty people and you arent a bad kid?

People who have/had abusive parents, when did you realize your parents are just shitty people and you arent a bad kid?

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  1. When I started talking casually of the things I went through and other people were *horrified*. Made me realize “Oh, that’s something everyone goes through and I’m just a pussy for not being able to handle it?”

  2. Probably the night my mom blacked out drunk in front of my bedroom. We went to my grandmother’s constantly back then because fights would get physical or someone can’t handle their alcohol. I came home the next day to my room torn up. Curtains on the floor, couch I had in there halfway across the room… Every time we had to go to my grandmother’s house, I was reminded that I shouldn’t fear for my life at home…

  3. A month ago .-.

    Sharing stories with people basically. Talking about it in therapy. Looking at old pshyc reports that they had me do that had me at extremely high levels of emotional distress as a kid. Realizing that maybe 5 year olds aren’t suicidal with good parents

  4. Im not sure the actual moment I realized. I think it was just a gradual thing since I was really little. The more they hurt me, the more I grew to realize something was not right and it just got more and more confirmed as I grew up. I think what is important is when I realized that I will never please them and nothing I do will ever be good enough so I stopped chasing that one little scrap of love I was looking for from them. Life has been way more peaceful since.

  5. I’ll one up that, imagine then later going on to have kids of your own and the eldest is a genuine piece of work who’d really be regularly deserving of a good whooping had I been the kind of parent to do it and not sacrifice everything else instead to hand-lead the sad monkey.

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