[Serious] What do consider an appropriate age to start sex education in school, and what should and should not be taught?

[Serious] What do consider an appropriate age to start sex education in school, and what should and should not be taught?

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  1. Sex education should be ongoing and tailored for age. Some girls get their period at the age of 9 and it’s very traumatic for them if they don’t know what’s happening. Sex education should not be one big information dump.

  2. Match what Germany does.

    Detail everything besides sex positions, erotic clothing, etc….it’s science…not porn so teach as science…not porn.

  3. Mild sex ed should be taught before puberty. Stuff like learning about puberty, what will happen, what things children would notice.

    Then the proper kind should definitely be taught to early teens. Nothing worse than having a hormone filled body running around knowing absolutely nothing about something that could change their entire life.

  4. Sex education can start at any age, with appropriate context. Learning about reproductive systems can start at 6-7. Birth control and STD at 11-12.

  5. I had my talk in 7th grade, and they explained all the STD’s and showed images and at the end were like, “basically don’t have sex but if you do wear a condom.” So I think that works perfectly.

  6. 12, because some of them will be starting to learning it by themselves in just a couple of years (or less) so is it better they do it well informed.

    There’s no need to go pornographic, but be real and be pragmatic.

  7. It’s very tricky honestly, Ik I had sex Ed when I was twelve and nobody took it seriously. But we also have kids losing virginity at thirteen. I remember freshman year we had a health class that detailed how to have safe sex and how to identify an abusive relations. I feel like every middle school freshman should be required to take that class.

  8. 4th grade is when I learned it. At that age I think the only thing that should be taught are the biological basics like P in V + orgasm makes a baby, pregnancy, and birthday/breastfeeding. Also what STD’s are and how adults protect themselves from them. All of the more political and confusing transgender stuff should be saved until at least 7th or 8th grade when they can process the information better.

  9. I would be of the opinion it should be in biology only, if there werent so many bad parents out there and kids getting stds and/or pregnancies.

  10. Parents are responsible for educating their children (in all things). If they choose to take advantage of the public education system, cool, but it is a resource, not a way to shed the responsibility.

    Sex education is just one of those things.

    Society as a whole benefits from an educated population, and must provide that resource because MANY (if not most) parents just plain suck at being anything but self absorbed Aholes.

    All kids are different, so the public education system is never going to get it right (timing or content).

  11. Certain things like “this part of your body shouldn’t be touched by anyone” should be taught as early as possible. Children should know about abuse and should be taught that if it happens to them they need to tell someone they trust. Other things like practicing safe sex should probably be taught around puberty age. I would say it should be up to the parents but that’s hard for me to believe because my parents abused me and allowed others to abuse me. It’s different for some people than others. My daughter is 7 and I have explained to her what abuse is and to never let anyone touch her inappropriately. Of course as she gets older she’ll understand more and start to make her own choices. The information is out there and accessible, if she finds it and has questions I’ll answer honestly.

  12. We started in grade 4 just learning the biology of how a zygote is created, grows in the womb, etc. I think that’s fine.

    Puberty is an important thing to discuss before it happens. I’d make that an early part of the lessons as well.

    Later grades eventually move into contraceptives which is fantastic. If consent and being safe with new partners isn’t a part of the course, it really should be. I remember an entire lesson on how to avoid having your drink spiked when I was in grade 9 and that’s another wise thing to be teaching.

    There’s a lot to sex that kids should know beyond the biology of making a baby. Its a social responsibility to make sure that they understand the gist of how it works, what the dangers of pregnancy and STI’s can be, how to protect yourself from those dangers and have a clear framework for consent and starting a physical relationship in a healthy way.

  13. It should start yoooooung. Children need to know what’s going on. They aren’t stupid. Keep them ignorant and that’s how they become victims. They are going to get their own ideals about the subject from somewhere anyway. Siblings, friends, tv, Internet, video games… sex is interwoven through every aspect of our lives, and most people do NOT have a healthy relationship with it. Teach them young, and take it very seriously. Let them understand how serious it is. We don’t have to start it off by talking about the physical act. Let’s have conversations about how to treat each other, healthy communication, right and wrong, respect, honesty, trust… then come in about healthy relationships, love, and how our bodies work. It should be interwoven into health, science, and other classes that may apply throughout their entire school career. I think it’s insane that a lot of parents have little to no conversations about it with their kids AND don’t want it to be taught in school. The more you hide something and make it a taboo, the darker it grows and urge to seek it grows along with it. Make it a normal thing to talk about and maybe people will stop acting like such psychopaths around the subject.

  14. It could start in elementary school. It’s nothing more than biology.

    What most people are worried about is has nothing to do with sex education.

  15. Kindergarten and onwards. Sex education and all it encompasses begins with normalizing personal space and boundaries, not strapping a condom on a banana. Not sure how anyone expects teenagers to respect “No” if this word has been meaningless for them as a toddler and child.

    As for strictly “what is sex and what goes with it?”, ideally before kids take an interest in it and have their education disrupted by the awkwardness and embarrassment that follows.

  16. In a perfect world it wouldn’t be taught in schools at all, imo. Kids would get it from their parents.

    We don’t live in a perfect world, though… so it should be the minimum required (this is puberty, these are the changes your body is going to go through, this is how pregnancy happens) and it should be taught fairly early on… 4th / 5th / 6th grade… then maybe revisited in like… 8th / 9th grade as a reminder before kids *really* start getting sexually active, with an addendum for contraceptives and how to be relatively safe when engaging in sexual activity. If kids need more, throw that into the scope of school counselors and let them work through those issues individually with the kids that need it.

    I would also really have appreciated it if my son’s schools had maybe sent me info about *what* they were planning to teach the students, even if it was only bullet points, or *at least* the fact that it was happening. Instead his first sex ed class slipped *completely* under the radar, and the second one was… well… opinionated…. and that one also would have slipped under the radar, but I asked my son to tell me if it came up again. If I don’t approve of the content they’re teaching, I should be able to opt him out of it and teach him myself. Mostly, though: I don’t appreciate schools teaching my kid about this stuff and not telling me about it so we can have our own secondary conversation about it at home.

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