[serious] What got you out of depression? by QuestionGuy September 29, 2022, 8:19 am [serious] What got you out of depression? What do you think? 1 Point Upvote Downvote AskAskMedepressionQuestion and Answer See more Previous article My dear friend 49 Comments Leave a Reply Honestly? Money. Log in to Reply I decided to find out why I was depressed. When I did that, I suddenly had purpose, and was not depressed any more. Log in to Reply Finding new, relatable music (korn and bad omens) and cutting out bad friendships. Log in to Reply Realising I was trans, completely changed my life. I’m now about 120 pounds lighter, doing well career wide and living with someone I love. Log in to Reply Had long term depression, more than 15 years and honestly two things that I wish I did sooner. Talked to my friends and mainly w33d. The herb helped with the negative emotions, social anxiety, and eating disorder. After reconnecting with friends and talking to them about it, overtime I gotten better. Now I dont even remember the last time I was sad but the psychological effects of the long-term depression are still there Log in to Reply Sleep Log in to Reply After battling depression my whole life. I think from circumstances and not a chemical imbalance. Then going through a deep suicidal depression for about 5 months because of a break up. I decided I would change. Instead of looking in the mirror and hating what I saw, then doing nothing about it and feeling even worse because of that. First I got help for the first time in my life. I went to the doctor and I’ve been seeing a psychologist regularly. Thats something I thought i would never do. But it does help to be open and air things out that ive kept inside forever. I began to routinize good habits and they became the norm. Now I’m eating healthy, I’m going to the gym regularly and I’m spending the majority of my free time doing things that improve my well being. It didn’t happen over night though, it’s a daily battle to fight the voice inside my head saying that I’m not good enough and I should just coware away and give up. I’m doing my best to be the change i want to see in the world. Gorbachev once said “if not me then who, and if not now then when” its too easy to listen to the voice inside your head and give up because today is a right off. Through this I finally learned discipline and for the first time in my life I actually have a goal and a positive outlook on my future. If you asked me even 1 year ago if i would be in this situation and have this outlook on life then I would refuse to believe it. Now I’m in a big brother program and I volunteer around my community. Participating in these things brings me more joy and meaning than I could have ever thought possible Log in to Reply I went to a psych ward. Stayed there for 1,5 years. Had Dialectic Behaviour Therapy. It really helped me. I’m also taking anti-depressants. It took a while to get the right one, but you have to be patient. Now I’m still going to a psychologist every few weeks. Honestly the depression still lingers and you’ll be ‘sensitive’ for it for the rest of your life. But you learn to cope in a better way with the downs and the difficult moments. Log in to Reply Mania. Log in to Reply Getting away from my husband Log in to Reply Finding my purpose in life Log in to Reply You don’t “get out of depression”. You learn to cope and live with depression. Log in to Reply not drugs Log in to Reply Consious connected breathwork Log in to Reply Medication and small steps. By small steps I mean like slowly doing very small things to get back to normal things. I literally started with this high end goal for each day: “Go smoke one cigarette outside”. Yes, that was my small step first goal. I smoked like a pack a day so going outside for one cigarette a day was…not much but it was a start. Just go outside for 3 minutes a day to sit by the front door to get a little bit of fresh air and see some sunshine. Log in to Reply Staying focused, loving comedy, talking to friends, and hopefully one day, I’ll make enough money to make me happy without every getting depressed again. Log in to Reply Wellbutrin and leaving an abusive relationship. But it’s back… Wellbutrin really helps me tho. Log in to Reply Understanding that quitting wasn’t an option. With effort life will get better. And for me, it has. Log in to Reply Art. Looking, learning, making it has given me a reason to keeping going in life. Log in to Reply Might sound weird, but I was too exhausted to be crippled by depression any longer. I have adapted to them. Bad times might come every now and then, but so do good times. I rather focus on them. Log in to Reply Years of chronic masturbation and Vanoss funny moments compilations. Both unrelated. Log in to Reply Prozac it changed my life! Log in to Reply Lexapro Log in to Reply A collection of things. A good support system with my family and medical team gave me the will to keep pushing through. But oddly enough though, the big thing that got me so far out of depression I don’t even need to take medication anymore? Probiotics. I can be feeling so depressed where I have no energy to do anything, I feel numb and all I want is to die. Then I take some good probiotics for a couple days and it goes away entirely. I can now accurately predict when depression is going to hit me and take the preventive measures to stop it before it happens. I was on antidepressants for 10+ years, in the psych ward 3 times for depression and suicide attempts. Must have tried at least 5 different kinds of antidepressants. None of them even came CLOSE to how effective probiotics have been for me. Log in to Reply EMDR therapy Log in to Reply Flatlining on an emt bed, I was playing on my PC all day and doing drugs regularly while unemployed for a month prior to it. Getting fat, eating fast food everyday, didn’t go out and ignored the people I lived with, I could tell they were getting fed up with me. What I saw on the other side made me value the short time I have here. From that moment forward I got back to the gym, talk with my family when I can and go out as much as possible. The short answer? Stop looking at screens and digitizing reality. The long answer? That’s up to you chief. Log in to Reply For my long term anxiety induced depression, it took moving to an entirely new city, to escape my mundane and boring life and going back to school. Being from a small town, moving to a city was a huge boost to my mental health – it made me realize while riding transit that – no one knew who I was or gave a shit about who I was. I could be anyone I wanted, none of these people care – they’re just trying to get from point A to B. Consequently, it meant I didn’t have to realistically give a shit about them, since I’d never see them again. After that, I started doing things I actually enjoy again, and more of it; like reading and practicing poetry, writing, and so on. I attribute a lot of my anxiety to a poor previous relationship that gave me a little bit of trauma. I also started practicing Stoicism, and it helped me quite a bit. The thing about mental health is there isn’t no one size fits all solution. Some find meds work, some find Cognitive Behavioral Therapy helpful. The one that helped me was CBT combined with an environmental change. Log in to Reply Actually speaking to a therapist who honesty wanted to help, and helping me see how many things were tied together and affect each other. Though taken a chunk of work to try and take in what he said without just offhandedly dismissing it. Log in to Reply Honestly, had 3 miscarriages in one year – I fell in a deep, deep hole of feeling hopeless, feeling worthless, useless. I was suicidal. I got in therapy, take antidepressants and what helped me a lot, was that I now carry our long-wished baby. He will arrive in December and I couldn’t be happier. My son needs me healthy, so I do anything to get healthy. I am still struggling but very kick I feel remindes me that there will be someone that needs me. So, finding a (new) purpose in live basically and I don’t feel like a complete useless person anymore. Log in to Reply I know this is a bit of a cliche but intense exercise and lots of it. In a group or with a mate seems to work best. Not the complete answer but it definitely helps. Refused to take antidepressants after seeing what they did to my exwife. Log in to Reply Medication and time. Medication to stabilize me, and time to find my balance again. I did go to therapy, but it didn’t help much because the depression was caused by external factors that I couldn’t change. Log in to Reply Probably not fully out of it, but limit drinking and smoke weed instead. That helped me a ton. Not saying it’s the option for everyone, cause I know my limits and still work/take care of my house etc. Log in to Reply clinical ketamine infusions, Lithium, patience and kindness from my loved ones Log in to Reply Exercise, at the same time, focus on something you’re really good at. As for me, I’m a chef, so I cooked/baked so much food that I had to give away. And that is where I met my current wife. Log in to Reply Making others feel pain. Log in to Reply Quietly sees if i can’t find a good answer to that in here Log in to Reply Put broadly, choosing life over death once truly having faced the abyss. More specifically, seeing a doctor, and becoming aware of my, admittedly limited but nonetheless present, ability to affect others in a positive manner. Log in to Reply I go in and out. Good music helps, gaming also Stay safe everyone Log in to Reply Gym Log in to Reply Medication and sports Log in to Reply Lots of sex Log in to Reply watching my friends have fun at a Zedd concert that i skipped because i was too depressed to go. i decided then that i would fight it, whatever it took. i’m still not 100% out of the woods, but i have more good days than bad, i know how to handle it better, and my swings are less intense and less frequent, fewer and farther in between. i have been seeing a therapist for over five years on and off, doing CBT, and really owning up to some issues, plus journalling, meditation, cut off toxic friends, and being firm with my boundaries. i’m hoping that the day i am fully out of it is closer now. Log in to Reply Getting blood tests done. Found out I was no only anaemic, but had been for 10 years because they forgot to tell me my blood results in my early 20s. B12 and folic acid are very important for the nervous system and therefore your brain. Turns out I don’t absorb them well. Over a decade of crippling depression, anxiety, fatigue, brain fog, nerve damage… Log in to Reply I read the book A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. It taught me to become aware of my ego. The ego is the entity that is the root cause of your depression. It can’t get any satisfaction. It’s always looking to the external for completion/salvation, but it’s fools gold, since the external (matter, “things”, the world of form) is always unstable and impermanent. But, you can transcend it through the power of the now. Since the ego lives in past-future, by directing your awareness to the NOW, it will dissipate once you detach yourself (consciousness) from your conditioned thought patterns. However, many people resist the now, they resist what is. They don’t want to accept their current circumstances and thus go back into past-future. Also, at a sub conscious level, they don’t want a solution to their problems. This may seem counter intuitive, but the ego cannot “survive” without problems and thus will use every trick in the book to hold on to problems or to create new ones. The two best techniques to achieve transcendence is to become conscious of your breathing and your inner body. Log in to Reply Although i support left wing liberals, I don’t want to live like them, much less associate with them – that’s the main logic under what helped me. Specifically, I asked myself: “what would a mentally ill leftist do in my place?” And did the EXACT OPPOSITE. I was in situations where they would’ve hopped on mind altering drugs and gone to therapy, become lazy slobs, eat all day, say they’ve developed EDs and probably attempt or self harm. I CANNOT, I REPEAT, I CANNOT EVEN FATHOM THE IDEA OR TOLERATE THE IDEA OF ONE DAY BEING ASSOCIATED WITH THEM. SO MUCH SO THAT I STARTED SELF IMPROVING FOR THAT REASON ITSELF. Log in to Reply tl;dr – Psychotherapy, Patience and a lot of Time. Was flying high both in private life but also in job, when a bad breakup and covid in short sequence hit like a truck. Wasn’t paying attention to my energy level at that time and pushed myself a lot, gaining momentum from getting shit done. At some point the drain from the breakup as well as the sudden change in life due to lockdowns have taken its toll and i just wasn’t functional anymore. Lost momentum, lost purpose, nevertheless tried to push myself instead of giving rest. Hated myself for not being able to perform anymore. Guess it was a textbook burnout. Did a lot things right at that time in getting professional help where i was taught to take care of myself and kind of ‘rewire’ my brain, which takes a lot of time, money and discipline. I am a quite impatient person and it takes a while to improve so this was hell for me. Still did the things i knew i liked before but wasnt able to enjoy anything of it. Had no interest in music, sports or video games i loved before. It felt like i was completely lost in that depression hole. Still went into therapy regularily, managed to take care of myself somehow in giving me time and understanding and finally was strong enough to change jobs (which in the end was a big factor). Right now i am celebrating milestones in recovery. I am able to concentrate again, have genuine interest in things and even found passion in music again which i thought to have lost. These are big steps but the whole thing still feels quite wobbly and uncertain and there is still a certain fear to fall back into old behaviour. There are a few concrete things that helped me a lot besides therapy on this journey that took 2 years so far. One is the book **”The Magic” from Rhonda Byrne** which teaches you to find joy in little things (its a bit of an esoteric approach which i hated at first but the exercises in the book definitely helped me in the rewiring process). The other one is a quote that i found here on Reddit which was quite applicable to my situation: **”you cannot heal in the same environment that made you sick”**. ​ Thanks for reading and enjoy the day fellow Redditors! Log in to Reply People still seem to not understand how depression works even if it’s so common these days. Depression is not a place you can leave behind you. First of all, there are degrees. Feeling mildly depressed for an inconvenience or for a rainy day is not like suffering from major depression. Depression at it’s “finest” Is like a revelation. You “wake up” realizing life sucks and there’s no going back from it. You can cope with that, you can ignore the feeling, you can act and think as an absurdist, you can build valuable relationships and love somebody, but deep inside you know Emil Cioran and Schopenhauer were right. Depression gets philosophical and shapes the way you see the world. There’s a big difference between feeling sad and being depressed. Log in to Reply Meds Log in to Reply UV light treatment and some easy exercise. Nothing too strenuous. Walking helped. And getting my bloodwork done. Turns out I had some vitamin and mineral deficiencies (including iron), low thyroid, and low albumin. I’m on thyroid medication now and a prenatal multivitamin (despite not being or attempting to get pregnant). I went for iron IV infusions. Log in to Reply Leave a Reply Cancel replyYou must be logged in to post a comment.