What do you think about monogamy?

What do you think about monogamy?

What do you think?

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  1. Big fan. I think it makes the most sense. Poly isn’t for me. I think a true and loving intimate relationship with 1 person is already one of the most complex relationships people engage in, and it’s a 24/7 gig to do right. Introducing more people into the mix makes it exponentially more complex and difficult IMO.

    Not saying you shouldn’t do poly if you like that. I’m just saying I think monogamy has better outcomes overall.

  2. Most people can’t have open relationships or be polygamist because most people are just too jealous. So I think monogamy is what most people should practice. If open relationships and polygamy works for you then you should do it.

  3. I don’t like monogamy or poly relationships lol I felt trapped when I was with just one person, but felt overwhelmed by a poly relationship when I tried that, as I just couldn’t keep up with two or more people and I pretty much acted like I was single at that point anyway, so I just became single.

  4. It’s one, but not the only, valid way of having a relationship. It’s what I prefer, because I just don’t experience being attracted to, let alone in love with, multiple people at once. But I also understand that not everyone experiences live and attraction like I do.

  5. Monogamy works well for the sort of people who are well-suited for monogamy. But it is not the be-all and the end-all of human relationship styles. I know dozens of people for whom ethical non-monogamy is far more ideal…myself, my partners, and their other partners included.

  6. I’m wired for it. I love to have one person to put all my romantic energy into. I have several friends who are poly and it seems to work for them. They are happy and their daughter seems healthy and well adjusted. So (at least anecdotally) It’s not a problem. But it would wear me down to nothing and I’d probably become resentful.

  7. idk if I could ever do it. im aromantic and i don’t really have too much of an interest in sex. plus I have mad commitment issues. a relationship does sound nice sometimes, just not when I’m in one.

  8. Evolutionary speaking, it’s against human nature. It’s hard, but that is what makes it special. I think it speaks volumes about how much you love and value your partner to overcome impulses. It’s complex. It’s difficult. It’s oh so very special. Big Fan

  9. Polyamory is idyllic in theory but very, very few people are emotionally wired to pull it off (myself included). Monogamy tends to be the default for lack of a functioning alternative.

  10. I honestly don’t understand how people have time to be poly. Between work, chores, friends, family, social obligations, and time with my partner I literally don’t know where I’d fit in a whole other relationship.

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