What sort of people do narcissists attract?

What sort of people do narcissists attract?

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  1. I don’t think narcs attract people so much as stake them out and seduce them so they can use them.

    Some people are takers; some are givers. The narc will sniff out a giver in minutes.

  2. The vulnerable, whether mentally or physically, usually the former. Narcissists usually give off this aura of confidence and security, which is how they lure prey in.

  3. This is a really interesting topic. The thing about surviving any type of abuse is that if you’re raised to behave in a certain way by your abuser, subconsciously you will seek that type of relationship out regardless of how miserable it made you in the first place.

    It’s hard to explain as eloquently as others have put it, but people who are raised to ‘serve’ another person’s emotional needs in a chronically abusive way — in this case, to validate the narc’s ego and power plays — you will not learn anything else. So when you finally reach adulthood, you have no idea how to take care of your own needs. You fail to achieve independence, you don’t know how to make decisions by yourself, you struggle with intimacy and trust, your self esteem and sense of self-worth are practically non-existent, and all that stuff makes you feel extremely vulnerable. Of course no one wants to be abused, but because humans are hard-wired to be attracted to familiarity, surviving abuse makes you more receptive to abusive people. It’s like you’re primed for it. This is why people who are abused as children often end up in abusive relationships as adults.

  4. People who have already been abused and taught that they are not as importamt or worthy as others. They are already use d to being treated badly and are.more likely to put up with abuse.

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