What’s the hardest truth you’ve learned in your life? by QuestionGuy October 21, 2022, 6:41 pm What’s the hardest truth you’ve learned in your life? What do you think? 1 Point Upvote Downvote AskAskMehardestlearnedLifeQuestion and AnswertruthWhatsyouve See more Previous article Please help me I’m trapped. In a Haiku factory. 39 Comments Leave a Reply You can’t change anyone else, you can only change yourself. To blame anyone else for your reactions or situations, is to give them the control over changing it. My response is my responsibility. Log in to Reply The world doesn’t treat you well just because you’re a good person. Log in to Reply That people eventually die, including love ones. We have to be strong enough to take it. Log in to Reply Just because you love someone more than anything in the world, doesn’t mean they feel the same. Log in to Reply No matter how many people love you, when shit hits the fan you’re more or less on your own. Log in to Reply That life is not fair..seeing the one’s who bullied me in the past live a normal and happy life with no remorse while I faced frustration, sadness and even now feels socially awkward due to the low confidence I have ever since those days, make me feel worse. Log in to Reply A few: 1.) Love is not enough to keep a relationship alive. 2.) Sometimes the worse things you will say to someone will eventually be the last thing they will ever hear from you. Sorry dad. 3.) You need to learn to properly open up on an emotional level with your partner. Being emotionally closed off will lead to a lot of issues. 4.) PROPER STRETCHING AND WARM UPS BEFORE WORKING OUT WILL SAVE YOUR JOINTS AND MUSCLES IN THE LONG TERM DUMBASS. 5.) Just stop with the excessive caffeine consumption. MODERATION. Log in to Reply That time goes fast–really really fast and the older you get the faster it goes. For so many years you thought you had plenty of time to decide on a future, until you wake up one day still undecided, but now you realize that your life consists of more past than future and that despite the old axiom about how “it’s never to late”, there’s now a tight little knot in your stomach telling you that “It probably is too late.” Log in to Reply Sometimes you are the bad guy. Log in to Reply I will not, in fact, live forever. And with time accelerating every day the end will be here far before I’m ready. Log in to Reply Love is not guaranteed. It wasn’t guaranteed from the moment you were born and it won’t be guaranteed to be by your side when you take your final breaths. Don’t take it for granted, just simply enjoy it when you have it. Log in to Reply Nobody cares by design. Log in to Reply Some people just don’t care to apologize or don’t care about your feelings and they will never validate you. You should only seek self-validation, because at the end of the day, it’s you who has to live with yourself. You know your own truth. Log in to Reply You can’t expect to be treated the way you treat others. Log in to Reply Stay away from prospective love. Log in to Reply That your gut instinct is almost always right. Log in to Reply that someone is never required to treat you the same way, no matter how much you care about and esteem them. particularly friends Log in to Reply No matter how hard you try to keep the peace and help the ones you care about to be happy. It isn’t enough. You are setting yourself up for failure. Log in to Reply Unconditional love and willingness to sacrifice anything for someone does not guarantee that they will feel the same way about you. Log in to Reply That my parents dont give a shit about me. All those delusional ideas about love and feelings I had when I was a kid should have been spent on acceptance and loving myself. Log in to Reply You cannot settle for less than you deserve just to avoid being alone nor should you depend on others to make you happy. Log in to Reply That even your best friend can turn into a stranger rather fast Log in to Reply That no matter how much you care for and value someone they’re never obligated to be the same to you. Especially friends Log in to Reply Don’t be too nice. Be a dick. Log in to Reply When someone does you wrong, it doesn’t matter if you’re in the right if the other person is MORE well liked. Log in to Reply If you’re seeing red flags in a relationship, then they’re their for a reason. Don’t ignore them because you think the person is cool or that you can change them. Log in to Reply That I was born alone and will die alone. Log in to Reply That I should have tried. Log in to Reply Almost every argument stems from assumptions. These assumptions aren’t always made maliciously – but because we’re trying to fill in gaps. When someone does or says something, and we dont understand their motivations, we search for some sort of explanation. but our explanation for these actions are almost always 100% wrong because our explanations are through a filter of our own experience. “well, the only reason I would say or do that thing is if this were the reason.” so we fill in the gap with our own narrative. That causes us to pass judgment on the other person. But that judgment is based on our OWN assumptions. Over time, without proper communication, you end up with a caricature of that person in your mind, who they are, what they’re about, whats important to them, what their motivations are. But its all literally WRONG. We need to remember to ASK why someone did or said something and avoid filling in those gaps ourselves. When you do this you’ll begin to realize that your initial explanation is almost ALWAYS wrong, that the filter of your experience is blinding you to all other possible explanations. Log in to Reply Although we are all connected we are ultimately alone. Log in to Reply You can clearly communicate what you like/don’t, but someone will always try to define what you want and talk over you as if they’re the authority on the subject. Log in to Reply Life is not always fair. It is what it is. Log in to Reply There will always be someone smarter, richer, better looking than you. Log in to Reply No matter how hard you might work for something, sometimes your goal simply will never be within your reach and you’re better off giving up and directing your efforts towards something else. Log in to Reply The universe does not reward and it does not punish. It is callously indifferent. Log in to Reply No amount of hope or wishful thinking will make a difference to the outcome. Life rewards action, not good intention. Log in to Reply Hard work will only take you so far. Log in to Reply You can think you know a person for 60 years and find out that whole person was an act. Log in to Reply You will lose everything except God. Log in to Reply Leave a Reply Cancel replyYou must be logged in to post a comment.