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When you date someone, does the number of previous sexual partners they’ve had matter?
When you date someone, does the number of previous sexual partners they’ve had matter?
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I have been married over 25 years. I know she wasn’t a virgin.
Other than that, I have no idea. Don’t want to know. She’s never asked me. Why? Because it doesn’t matter
Nope; long as they have a clean STD panel.
The older I get, the less I’d care. We’ve all got histories.
Unprotected sexual partners matters
Yup. Better be real high
I don’t care at all. I feel somewhat relieved/at ease with someone with a relatively small number of sexual partners because I feel like there’s less expectations for performance (I don’t think I’m the best at sex).
However, I also like being with somebody that’s had more sexual partners because they can teach me new things and appear to be more willing to give feedback in my experience.
It doesnt matter, I dont give a fuck, I give a fuck about how the present is, not the past
It depends on the person. But for the majority of people it matters. Even if they don’t say it does or don’t want it to, insecurities can get the best of us. It also depends on if you’re dating for fun or dating for marriage for some people.
I would actually prefer having a girl who has had way more sex than I have, so yeah, this really isn’t a red flag for me lol
Nope. Don’t care if it’s 0 or 100 (or any other number)
They aren’t a car
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Doesn’t matter to me, so long as your body count doesn’t reflect any personality disorders or potential high risk of transmitting an STI.
Not really but if the partner is known to date someone for only a short time and then move on with someone else I’d be concerned
I wish I had had the chance to date someone with some sexual experience, but it never happened. So… Idc, it is not a dealbreaker, but it would have been nice to try something different for a change, maybe I could learn with them.
No. The only thing that matters to me is that I am the only one while we are dating.
Yes, absolutely at least 2+ so they have an actual chance of knowing what they are doing. Personally not so many that it shows an inability to commit (so like not more than a few per each year they have been above the age of consent – if somebody sleeps around a lot that’s their business but it would be a sign they aren’t dating material unless they also have proven long-term relationships to average it out) but that is more a matter of taste bc some people are fine with dating somebody for casual sex.
Nah not really
Yes and no. Mostly no, but if it’s a crazy high number I’m not judging the act, but judging their ability to commit or know what they want and keep it.
Only thing I care about is negative STI tests, lol.
Yes. I want them to have some. Virgins are boring.
The past is the past. Only the present and the future matter. Experience is also good in my book. You get better at things the more you do them.
It’s a red flag if it’s relationships more than sexual partners- I’m fine if you’ve been boinking a lot, but why can’t you keep a relationship
It’s like a ejaculate and evacuate
I’ll go the dark alley here and say that it matters to me.
Two things.
First, if she has less bodycount she obviously knows how to judge men and is smart
Second, it’s a personal preference I’ve kept. And i actually told a few women no in my life, one who had a reputation for being the ‘ pass around ‘ chick. The sad look on her face still haunts me.
Nah. Definitely not as a morality issue but maybe as a health issue.
No. I would only be concerned if it was all irresponsible/unprotected sex because that could damage my health. But at the same time, you can get an STD from even once so I guess it would be nice for any new sexual partner to have an STD screen. I’ve had a few in regular checkups just to be safe and it’s super easy.
not really, as long as theyve been safe and/or have been tested recently.
Sure does. Ability to pair bond decreases with more partners. Also, you have a much less chance of being “the best they’ve had” the more partners they’ve had
I’m not sure people will be totally honest about this because being judgmental about this (either way, slut-shaming or being anti-virgin) is really frowned upon, but very common.
I think people try not to let it matter and act like it doesn’t, but still have feelings about it.