When you date someone, does the number of previous sexual partners they’ve had matter?

When you date someone, does the number of previous sexual partners they’ve had matter?

What do you think?

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  1. I don’t care at all. I feel somewhat relieved/at ease with someone with a relatively small number of sexual partners because I feel like there’s less expectations for performance (I don’t think I’m the best at sex).

    However, I also like being with somebody that’s had more sexual partners because they can teach me new things and appear to be more willing to give feedback in my experience.

  2. It depends on the person. But for the majority of people it matters. Even if they don’t say it does or don’t want it to, insecurities can get the best of us. It also depends on if you’re dating for fun or dating for marriage for some people.

  3. I wish I had had the chance to date someone with some sexual experience, but it never happened. So… Idc, it is not a dealbreaker, but it would have been nice to try something different for a change, maybe I could learn with them.

  4. Yes, absolutely at least 2+ so they have an actual chance of knowing what they are doing. Personally not so many that it shows an inability to commit (so like not more than a few per each year they have been above the age of consent – if somebody sleeps around a lot that’s their business but it would be a sign they aren’t dating material unless they also have proven long-term relationships to average it out) but that is more a matter of taste bc some people are fine with dating somebody for casual sex.

  5. I’ll go the dark alley here and say that it matters to me.

    Two things.

    First, if she has less bodycount she obviously knows how to judge men and is smart

    Second, it’s a personal preference I’ve kept. And i actually told a few women no in my life, one who had a reputation for being the ‘ pass around ‘ chick. The sad look on her face still haunts me.

  6. No. I would only be concerned if it was all irresponsible/unprotected sex because that could damage my health. But at the same time, you can get an STD from even once so I guess it would be nice for any new sexual partner to have an STD screen. I’ve had a few in regular checkups just to be safe and it’s super easy.

  7. I’m not sure people will be totally honest about this because being judgmental about this (either way, slut-shaming or being anti-virgin) is really frowned upon, but very common.

    I think people try not to let it matter and act like it doesn’t, but still have feelings about it.

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