Why can’t we drop the labels and categories and just approach sex/dating/relationships/friendships with a “I like you, I’d be up for this/that, are you feeling the same way?” attitude rather than having all of these badges to wear and things to conform to?

Why can’t we drop the labels and categories and just approach sex/dating/relationships/friendships with a “I like you, I’d be up for this/that, are you feeling the same way?” attitude rather than having all of these badges to wear and things to conform to?

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  1. It’s a mix honestly some people are very much as you described.

    The psychology is really that people like to have categories and labels on things. Most people don’t like having things floating out on the ether as it were.

    Are we boyfriend / girlfriend ; just f buddies ; just friends….. these labels help us to understand our roles/actions/feelings/surroundings better

  2. Tbh, I prefer flirting above all else. I get bored easily when I’m in a relationship because I don’t feel the same rush I got when I was playing.

    Nothing stops you from having the attitude you mentioned tho.
    Just grow some balls and go talk to her bro

  3. Because the world is complicated and negotiating literally everything with every individual person from scratch is very hard.

    Those labels are like templates that you can start from, which other people have found to generally work.

    Picking the closest template and then tailoring it to what you want is a hell of a lot easier than starting from scratch.

  4. Just imagine dozens of socially awkward/unattractive people approaching you with the same basic few statements. “Hi, I’m Snrub. I am looking to have intercourse. I don’t care who, or where. I just love intercoursing.” And then you bump into that same person a few times in a day and every time they hit you with the same lines. But then it’s not just Snrub. It’s every third person you meet. Every day. Every week. Every month. Every year.

  5. That requires being vulnerable and too many take advantage of that. It can also get you embarrassed, some things are just taboo and won’t change for a long time. Classifications also indicate past history and what expectations to have. I’ll use relationships since you mentioned it. If I had a friend seeking a relationship, I’d be less likely to recommend a “promiscuous” person because that paring is likely to fail.

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