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When my son was killed, a woman said to me, “Don’t be sad, you still have four other children.” What is the worst thing someone has said, while trying to make you feel better?
When my son was killed, a woman said to me, “Don’t be sad, you still have four other children.” What is the worst thing someone has said, while trying to make you feel better?
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That’s so awful. I am sorry, OP.
After I had an emergency c-section and almost died, someone said to me the next day, “Get over it, people go through worse every day.” It really fucked me up.
my condolences to the OP.
so once i tried to commit suicide. later my mom n i were talking abt it n mom was like “you did it to get everybody’s attention didnt you?”
left me heartbroken man.
Ooof – not sure I can top that.
When I was a teen one of my classmates got pregnant so my mom decided to have a chat with me about it. I told her she didn’t have to worry about me getting pregnant because I was a nerdy girl and also overweight so I said boys wouldn’t want me anyway. She proceeds to say “oh boys don’t care. They’ll put a bag over your head”
……hey thanks mom. I thought I was just a chubby geek. Now I’m ugly too.
My sister died 9 months ago, and I was told “You’ll get over it, besides you have 3 other sisters.”
I was so livid that I dropped masking and left.
This is so awful! I’m sorry OP. My mom one time said to me, “For once, behave like a man, just for once!” I’m gay and you can tell. The time she said that was because I was driving her to her doctor’s appointment, and I was using 2 hands to drive the car. She thinks only women drive like that, and I should use one hand only with my back seat pulled all the way back because, “That’s how men drive” apparently.
Also, the usual “Fa*ott” and other slangs in school for years.
Thats such a cold thing to say..sorry to hear
“Ah don’t be upset. It’s not you, your people inherently have a problem”
“it’s just a sign that you should move back home to be with family”
Told me this before the fire department had even left the scene of the house fire that took everything I had and my dogs.
After I’d spent years escaping that toxic hell-hole and caring for one dying relative after another who would rather focus on maintaining their addictions than care about the only one who cooked, cleaned and paid bills while the house fell down around us and we lived in constant squalor.
After a few drinks at a bar one night in my 20s I was flirting with a lady next to me who was theoretically old enough to be my mother.
At one point for reasons I don’t remember I said “I’ll bet you were hot when you were younger.”
It was one of those moments when you want to physically reach into the air and grab the words before they reach their ears, but alas.
That is the most white woman statement I’ve ever heard im so sorry for your loss
When I had my miscarriage. I was 9 weeks along and my then husband and I were starting to get excited even after the initial terror.
I don’t believe in the Christian God and all I got to hear from my family was that “it was God’s plan” and “Your baby is with Jesus now!”
I wanted that child so badly and they just brushed it off with God. I unfortunately have since been diagnosed with a treatment resistant type of Bipolar and even though I’m no longer in favor of having a family it still hurts sometimes.
as someone with zero children gotta say she had a point
Do you still have four children
It’s not you. It’s me